Today’s blog post is not only a training, but is also an entry for Brendon Burchard‘s Expert’s Academy contest! WISH ME LUCK!
First things first though…my topic for today’s training video is how to eliminate the COMPARE MONSTER forever. This is a monster that hides in my life and sometimes (often?) takes over everything I’m trying to succeed at and accomplish! Sheesh, relentless little buggar!!
Compare or despair says John Lee Dumas from a Snapchat chat I had with “JLD” the other day! I am taking that to heart and learning, so I can teach. Sooooo, here are the 5 tips that you can use to SUCCEED at conquering the Compare Monster…FOREVER! I’m going to be using them too!
Focus on the things that are special about you; your life experience, your age, your story
Give yourself reminders on your greatness in and around your world; post it notes, pop up reminders on your phone, voice recordings
Surround yourself with people who need what you have to offer
LEARN from those who you compare yourself too but don’t LEAN on them…leaning leads to thinking that you don’t have what it takes; and you do
Be a constant student in order to be the best teacher possible; keeping your mind busy will keep your mind off of the compare monster
I hope you found some value in this…I know I’m going to start practicing these 5 Compare Monster exorcism activities TO-DAY! Once you’ve tried them, let me know how your journey is going in the comment section!
On this day dedicated to LOVE and all things “mushy gushy” I’m here to give you a simple reminder, instruction even, to LOVE YOURSELF…first and foremost.
Whether or not you are in a relationship of some sort you can take the time to love yourself UNCONDITIONALLY today…and always.
Give yourself the GIFT and learn the importance of loving yourself unconditionally. You can give yourselfValentines Day gifts today too; chocolate, pizza, shoes, purses, a movie date, a new tablet, maybe a car…I could go on and ON with that list. Translate what you might give to your “lover” and give that to yourself instead! <3
“…there is only one thing that heals every problem, and that is: to know how to love yourself.
When people start to love themselves more each day, it’s amazing how their lives get better. They feel better. They get the jobs they want. They have the money they need. Their relationships either improve, or the negative ones dissolve and new ones begin.“
Today I did a brief Periscope chat on the subject because, even though there are a lot of people out there ‘scoping about their Valentines Day dates and their romantic getaways, there (I’m QUITE certain) are also a lot of people home alone on this night feeling sorry for themselves…or wishing they were somewhere else, and I wanted to encourage those people.
Love yourself my friends of the internet; it’s the most important relationship you’ll ever nourish.
So my friends of the internet, here’s a whacky story for you. It’s called “The time the DOCTORS asked me to be on their TV show” and it’s a real life story. Turned out to be the role I never got, as my actress daughter would say.
So it started like this…
I got a comment on one of my videos [I answer all of my LEGIT comments on YouTube #justsayin] (lots of people don’t) and could barely believe what I was seeing!
Needless to say, after getting back up off the floor from shock and excitement, I responded IMMEDIATELY! We communicated several times back and forth and it was all becoming very real and VERY exciting!
She said that the show wanted to do a segment on Instantly Ageless™ as they were hearing so much buzz about it. It DID win product of the year from The Academy of Multi Level Marketing for 2014 after all, which is pretty cool! Obviously the Doctors heard about this and wanted to showcase our amazing product!
SMART! And they PICKED ME to be part of it! So, here’s the full story for you…in my own words.
Yet another notch in the learning post of life! #itsallgood [I keep telling myself]. No, it actually IS all good because who REALLY gets these kinds of invitations? Not that many of us for sure, so I was completely honoured to be asked.
You may be asking what happened, and why it didn’t actually work out. Well, I could tell you but it doesn’t matter anymore because it didn’t happen and life goes on.
Yet another blazingly obvious example that we have to CHOOSE our reactions…how am I going to let this affect me. Admittedly, I felt sorry for myself over this for almost a full day, but then I stopped that shit and moved on! CHOICE is all we have my friends when it comes to recovery. What other people do is something we have no control over. So did I get my big break on the TV show the Doctors? Not this time…and that’s just fine with me.
There is really truly something so magical about discovering all the foibles oddities and weirdness that make up you and who you truly are.
So, until you are ready and willing to dig deep and discover the things that may possibly be holding you back from your best life, then you can’t more forward until you do this…you MUST be open to finding those things. Recognizing your triggers and learn not only how to cope but to manager these imperfections are the key that unlocks your best life.
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I had a major discovery this week; one that actually surprised me. I am a very upbeat and positive person; down-right likable if you ask those that know me. I have my off days for sure, but overall, I’m pretty happy. I realized, admitted more like it, that I have no joy though. No real sense of joy whatsoever. In fact, when I started digging deeper I was discovering a LOT (way more than I’d like to admit) of negativity which I believe is keeping me from moving forward.
Triggers like “why me” “it’ll never happen” “i can’t believe they did that to me” “I’ll never get out of this“…on and on, were all I was hearing. It kind of disgusted me.
I am SO grateful for my new membership in John Assaraf’s NeuroGym program as IT is what has led me to understand my triggers and is helping me change MANY things in my thinking; and thus my life. This, is a perfect example of the amazing things I’m learning there (which, again, are helping me to move forward with my life)…
I’ve said this before in my blogs, I’ll say it again…it’s about choices my friends. Choices we make on how we think, react, respond and live our lives. I am choosing to let go the negativity that is plaguing my insides and choosing to find joy, to BE joyous. Truly 100% joyful. My excuses for the negativity are crutches that I didn’t realize I had or was holding on to. Thank GOODNESS for the ability to recognize this; I’m truly grateful!
Do you have something deep down inside that you have recognized is holding you back from moving forward? Have you chosen to move beyond it? I’d love to connect and hear your story so leave a comment below with your a-ha moment.
Soooooo, this week I had a complete FLOP of a first attempt on blab.im. :/
Here’s the story…I have my lists made and my goals set, and creating more; DIFFERENT content in 2016 is HIGH on my list of priorities! Things like Periscope, blab and Snapchat (I am @lorriratzlaff on all of these BTW’s if you want to come join me) are going to be taking more of my time in an effort to reach more people!
So with that being said, last week my inaugural blab was planned and scheduled, I told all my friends and teammates and readers and followers (more than once) and what happened? Outside of one person joining in and telling me to take my clothes off it was nothing but crickets in the room.
But…THAT’S OK! I handled it like a professional (I think :) ) and gave my planned talk as IF there were people there soaking up the content! It was great!
So, the gist of today’s blog is, how do you react to a complete flop? What do you do when you are highly anticipating something to go so well, and it very much doesn’t? Do you sulk and pout and simmer in your self-pity? I know I felt my mind going that direction, not going to lie, for a very short period of time anyway. UNTIL I stopped myself. Everyone has a first at everything and very RARELY is the first attempt at ANYTHING perfect! So there you go, I decided that is was OK, that it was meant to be that way and that it can only get better.
The great thing about personal development is that is literally does not allow you to stay in the same place (mentally, emotionally, spiritually) for anything. You’re always growing and improving yourself. It’s truly one of my greatest passions! Had I not done a lot of personal development over the years last week’s flop may very well have sent me straight to “I’m never using blab again”…which OBVIOUSLY isn’t the case (you can catch me on blab.im every Thursday morning at 10:30 AM Pacific time)!
What do you do when you have created a complete flop? I’d love to read in the comments below if you do a little “woe is me” before picking up your socks and moving on or if you’re rock solid and nothing gets to you. Let me know!
I spent the evening yesterday learning about Mindset for Success with a large group of entrepreneurs in Vancouver, BC. The speaker for the evening was John Nieuwenburg of W5Coaching.com.
John and I met months ago when presenting together at a BNI event, and we’ve stayed in touch ever since! That’s the beauty of networking, finding colleagues to work with and some even become friends!
So here is John, doing what he does best, teaching us and training us how to have a Mindset for Success, in our businesses and life in general!
Some of the best topics he talked about were our self-limiting beliefs, what they mean and where they come from; our values; the choices we make (he talks about that a little bit in the video that you just watched). One of my favorite lines that he said was [tweetherder text=”successful people chose their response”]”successful people chose their response”[/tweetherder]. I talk a LOT about choices and that when it comes down to it really EVERYTHING is a choice, and when we chose to respond a certain way that could either truly make us or break us.
John is great, he has a really great blog as well so please feel free to visit him over at www.w5coaching.com. I know you will find value in learning more about him!